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Ice-Cream01Being one to celebrate diversity…..I enjoy many different flavors of ice cream, wouldn’t it be dreadful to only eat vanilla your entire life?! The squeals of joy that come forth from my two grand kids as I ask, “Who wants ice cream?” And we say together, “I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream!” This mantra came from my dad who grew up working in his parents ice cream parlor redicecreamparlorbusiness…..not a bad place to work! When we think of ice cream, I don’t think I know of anyone who chooses the same flavor every time….the different flavors is what makes eating ice cream so pleasurable.

This thought leads me to think about relationships, both personal and in the business arena.  Relationships are fragile at best….and I am not an expert in theory nor in practice let me make that clear from the start. I really am an observer of human behavior as I enjoy it very much as well I am a participator of course.

Let’s stay with the word diversity….dictionary.com defines it as: the state of being diverse; difference; unlikeness; variety; multiformity. The opposite of diversity would then simply be sameness or similarity. One thing I enjoy about people and relationships is no one person is the same….as me….or anyone else on the planet! Each person has a unique design, DNA, like a snowflake, no one person is the same as another and this in itself is to be celebrated!index

Relationships are fragile…..would it be safe to say that if we understood how unique we are and the same is true of another….that would be a good place to begin accepting each other and again, celebrating the diversity in the relationship.

From my life experience I have seen a few interesting things with regards to relationships with the almost 5 decades I’ve lived on this big beautiful planet. Sadly, I have experienced and witnessed where people’s diversity caused hurt, pain, separation, disassociation, judgment etc.

When someone chooses a new flavor of ice cream….say a new church, a new business, a new product, a new career, a new car, a new hairstyle….whatever it may be….this is something we should all be celebrating! For example, I grew up attending church every Sunday morning. We started at a United Church, moved to a Free Methodist, then to a Free Evangelical, Pentecostal, Charismatic etc. I think there may have been a Baptist in there as well. Back in that time…it was almost viewed a “sin” to change one’s church preferences; the Baptists didn’t associate with the Pentecostals and vice versa.

Moving ahead to our present time…..I ask myself has much changed? I can honestly say with joy, yes! Yet, there is still a ways to go :)

I still see where people disassociate with someone they were in relationship with simply due to a preference for things like:  a new business, a new product, a new house, bank, church, school…..you get the picture. You will even find people “de-friending” people on face book for not being in the same business any longer or promoting what they believe is the “right” thing. My honest thoughts on this is summed up in 3 simple words “Get over yourself!” Seriously, the world is a big beautiful place for you and your flavor of ice cream that you enjoy and for others who may enjoy another flavor.

One of my favorite expressions is this: Unity in diversity is power! Isn’t that great! When we can not only accept that people are different from us, they may think different, go to a church that is different than ours or use a product different than the one we use…..but we can move forward to not only acceptance but celebration! One size truly does not fit all in this context.

Hey, I’m heading out for an ice cream cone….3 scoops…cause I think I want to taste 3 different flavors today :)

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Enjoy this beautiful day and choose to celebrate the beauty in simplicity and in diversity….I know I am!

With great joy, Kristen

Thanksgiving…..having been born in the USA, yet living my entire life in Canada (finally a dual citizen after 40 plus years:) I love being able to celebrate both Thanksgivings, one in October and the other in November.  It’s a great way to truly be intentional with my heart…. being thankful and giving thanks.

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At the top of my list is relationships and that is my focus today.  Relationships are the bedrock, the foundation of life….both in business and in family, in everything.  We are created to relate, no one can survive for long periods of time alone.  Tom Hank’s character in “Cast Away” demonstrates the need we have, the need for relationship with at least one other person.  His soccer ball, Wilson, served metaphorically to be his friend, his only friend while stranded on an uninhabited island. He wouldn’t have made it without Wilson:)Wilson_castaway

It doesn’t matter our personality styles, introvert or extrovert, neither what motivates us, nor our giftings, talents, preferences or learning and leadership styles….relationships are at the heart of the matter.  In fact, the beauty of diversity in harmony is what is truly powerful.

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One of the greatest challenges of the 21st century is to create and maintain meaningful relationships.  Understanding your own thinking preferences and your partner’s as well as your closest friends’ can go a long way towards deepening insight into differences, grasping that we do not all have to think and do the same things.  I recently saw a post on face book from a male ‘friend’ stating he did not understand females at all.  My immediate thought was, “Dude, discover your-self and your thinking preferences first, then you’ll be better able to understand others, even those of the opposite sex.”

Many relationships are fragile at best.  We sometimes lack tolerance towards differences. Understanding your brain preferences and those around you will impact your relationships and go a long way towards growing understanding, snoopylovetolerance and excitement instead of criticism and the constant battle of trying to change others to be more like us!  Discover your own thinking style, as remember our first relationship is with our self!

Without further adieu, the importance of understanding your own brain thinking preferences is something I genuinely value as this leads to healthier relationships in general.  I would like to offer to you a Thanksgiving special. The Basic Whole Brain Profile Package regularly priced at $77.00 for the next 48 hours this package will be offered at the low price of $47.00 a $30.00 savings! Click Here

Passionately,

Kristen

 

Are You Game?!

Kristen Olynick —  November 19, 2013 — Leave a comment

Recently on face book I encountered a game.  I was totally unawares that it was a game.  I had just finished reading 12 things a friend wrote about herself that others may not have known.  I was actually blown away by how awesome she is.  My heart seemed to smile as I finished reading her 12 things and I felt I knew her just a wee bit more.

Just as I “Liked” her post and wrote “You are amazing” I received a post to my timeline from my amazing friend.  “Ok, so I guess the game goes like this, you like or comment on a status and you’re given a number to repeat the process. So, I give you 12 as well:)”

I have never played games on face book just because I usually don’t take the time…for such trivial things :)

Before I knew it, my creative juices began flowing and I was writing…thoughts poured from my memory bank and within 3 minutes I had my 12:

1) I love numbers!! Referring to their meaning not an accountant numbers person
2) While serving as my grad class President I got into a fist fight with the Secretary/Treasurer & was suspended
3) I had to wear the hand me down underwear of my older sister & let’s just say she wasn’t a size small
4) One New Years Eve in Mexico I had emergency surgery & was operated on, cut hip bone to hip bone without anesthetic….really wanted a whiskey bottle!
5) Always wanted 3 sons…..what was I thinking?!! Daughters are amazing!!
6) I may appear an extrovert (just because I love ppl & their stories) yet by nature am an intuitive introvert
7) Need 3 lifetimes to do all that I want to do….i’m addicted to change from the place of wanting to do new things…all the time!!
Met & married my guy in a 4 month window, been married 27.5 years….we also work together in biz & ministry
9) Freakishly afraid of mosquitos….specifically what they give you!
10) I am a recovering people pleaser.
11) My fight or flight reactors are almost always on: I once came upon a horrific brawl btwn 2 ginormous men…without a moments thought I jumped onto one guys back (all 108 lbs of me) & whispered into his ear “You don’t want to do this” And he stopped smashing the other guys face into a car bumper.
12) I am more afraid of success than failure….working on that

The responses and likes were quick to come in.  One thing I learned from this “game” is that we as human beings enjoy learning about ourselves and others….we enjoy stories.  I believe companies such as Starbucks have really tapped into this human desire of ours in the 21st century.

As I thought further about this game and games in general I recalled the famous quote of Albert Einstein “Games are the most elevated form of investigation.”game

Then I thought further and deeper…..we live in the Information Era….such a left-brain world it is!  With computer programming (programmed us right out of our right hemisphere that’s for sure) to our school, business and health systems, just about everything in our Western society is programmed for the processes of the left-brain.  Truly it is imperative to not only value the processes of our right hemisphere such as investigation, problem solving, empathy, holistic & big picture thinking, strategy, variety, networking, communication, intuition to name just a few but we need to utilize these valuable processes.

The times we live in are demanding these processes as our world and how we do business is changing. Could it be a simple shift is called for?  A shift from the left-brain (not forsaking it….it’s just not all sufficient, to the much needed, sought after, in high demand processes of our right brain.

Think about this…..there is a whole other world that we must integrate in order to meet the challenges of the next century…..and it’s just across the way :) Two Hemispheres

Are you predominantly a left-brain (analytical & factual) or right-brain (holistic & strategic ) processor?

Do you prefer organization & detail (left-brain) or interpersonal & unorthodox (right-brain)

The Brain Profile gives an indication of how:

  • You act towards other people
  • You do business
  • You communicate
  • You learn
  • You teach
  • You solve problems
  • You form relationships
  • You play sport etc.

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Being aware of your thinking preferences will assist in almost every field of life and prepare you for the 21st century shift!

Passionately,

Kristen