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High up on a suspension bridge….Wes & Hayley sealed their vows with a kiss! IMG_4695 In a setting so spectacular, with an intimate group of friends and family surrounding them, their new adventure began. FullSizeRender-19

Vows fit to their surroundings….

“May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!”

May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.”14202634_1394689860545480_492723127069110905_n

And in true wedding “anything can happen” style….you seize moments that come up….such as when the groom is so bedazzled by his bride’s beauty that he cannot resist the need to reach for his sunglasses….and of course the Best of the Best Men have them ready!


The secret to your wedding day is….be true to yourself.  Create the wedding ceremony of your dreams, that truly reflects who you are and when you are true to yourselves….marriage success will follow! #happyweddingofficiant #customweddingceremonies

Today is an anniversary date for me. It is what it is, neither good nor bad….it’s part of my life story. I am a vibrant woman with a heart that is steadfast in looking at the good in my life and celebrating what I have. I have lived with great joys and with great sorrows…it is part of the package we all have and it’s really a beautiful one. Perspective is everything.

This date June 9th has both beauty and sorrow in it. In 1984 it was a day that turned the course of my life and impacted me so severely, yet it also ushered in a whole new path than the one I had been on.shutterstock_182120438

Yes, I was attacked, beaten and raped at knife point. The perpetrator did go to jail as I didn’t have to make any decisions in that area, it was a scenario that was out of my control…police surrounding the area and made public by both newspaper & radio…..

The trauma of this rape did leave scars; Physically, I stopped having periods, was diagnosed barren (I did have one child miraculously:), Emotionally/Mentally suffered PTSD; Relationally I became far more introverted and fearful (an understatement).

I want to speak to those who have suffered rape, trauma, loss of any kind. Knowing what I know today about how amazing we human beings are; that we are 3 parts, body soul & spirit….it takes healing in all 3 areas to really be victorious. To heal, overcome and move forward, past the pain and loss, is not only possible it is yours to have!

By nature I am a philanthropist…..having lived and worked in developing nations, serving and helping those less fortunate. I have given most of my life to assisting others in what I refer to as “Discovering Your Brilliance.” We all have brilliance in us, no matter what happens to us, what decisions we make, or mistakes made at times in life….nothing is too difficult that with assistance (divine & human:) we cannot overcome. There is always hope; the confident optimistic expectation that good is coming!11225082_10153045758506993_6417083689100243498_n

Pursuing my brilliance included training and licensing as a Whole Brain Practitioner; where understanding and awareness of how you think brings clarity to almost every area of life; relationships, business, parenting, decision making etc);  As a Certified Life Coach I13177304_965170613598472_2953226843925455359_n also understood from my life experiences that so much of our beliefs, thinking, perspectives are in our subconscious mind and to really access this mind we need the skills and tools necessary along with the willingness “to go there.”  Neurolinguistics Programming helps to re-frame thinking patterns and unlocks negative emotions, (memory is stored at a cellular level), releasing them to bring more freedom!

I meet clients (people!) everywhere…coffee shops, houses,

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Skype, indoors, outdoors, just about anywhere to help bring understanding and clarity which leads to being powerful. Recently, I have a bright and colorful office space at the core of my city…..  I am so looking forward to meeting you and I’m confident that we will together discover your brilliance!

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Have a better than great day! June 9th is so beautiful!

With love & laughter,

Kristen

Certified International Whole Brain Practitioner
CCF – Certified Coaches Federation
NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming
Licensed Marriage Coach
Licensed Wedding Officiant
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While raising our son, like many parents, my husband and I wanted to teach and instill values in him that reflected our core beliefs, that would help him to become a good citizen, contribute to society and most importantly that he would like himself and therefore enjoy others.  Giving….learning to receive and to give to others is a strong value of ours as a family.  Practicing generosity was high on our day to day list.

A girl plays on an artwork made of unwanted toys at the solo exhibition of Japanese artist Hiroshi Fuji, in TokyoWhen our son Caleb was 8 years old, we sold everything, our house, belongings, pets, everything, to move to Mexico and then on to Central America for a period of four years.  Living in a 33 foot trailer we couldn’t keep a lot of ‘stuff’  We would practice the “river principle.”  When something came in, something had to go out.  For example, when Caleb received a new toy from someone, he had to give a toy to another child otherwise we would get a build up of stuff and we just didn’t have room.

The “river principle” would become a part of our value system lived out not only in the toy department but in almost every area of life.  We would learn to receive generously as well as to give generously.  This transferred into diverse forms of giving; kind & encouraging words, tokens of appreciation, volunteering of time, helping hands and the giving of gifts.stock-footage-mountain-river-flows-among-the-deciduous-forest-steep-banks-fast-flowing

Grooming a selfless, generous, giving spirit in your child is not only possible and highly beneficial to them and to society in general, this will also combat the “give me now” generation that is wreaking havoc that we sometimes encounter in our families, in grocery store line ups, schools etc.  Yes it’s true, out of our need for living space we began practicing the “river principle” yet, truthfully we began when our son was much younger.  He was an only child who could have had it all, new clothes, new toys, new everything.  Yet, we chose to take the advise we heard from Oprah Winfrey which was, “Act as if you have 5 kids!”  Such great advice!  Totally useful as we would go on to help run a children’s home in the middle of the jungle in Central America!

While there, teaching and training the impoverished children, we taught and lived out the “river principle.”  It’s amazing what would be given to the children in the home!  They would receive far more than what they needed.  Along with our son, they would choose one item to keep and one to give away.   With joy, the children would load up the ‘extra’ toys, clothes, etc into our truck and off we would go to the villages to joyfully give out of our overflow.  The river was always flowing. kidsgiving

Problems, trouble, bad attitude, ‘give me this give me that’ kind of mentality is actually easier to solve than most parents realize.  We do our kids a huge disservice by not teaching and modeling to serve others……..we must keep the river flowing.  Water that gets stagnant and plugged up, becomes stinky, dirty, and is not useful.

To become a good giver you actually have to become a good receiver.  Perhaps, we as parents should focus more on how to receive properly. By developing a thankful heart, saying the simple words, “Thank you” is such a great place to start!  From that place giving would be a much simpler step and the river would keep on flowing!16149_thankyou_smiley

I understand that teaching core values and modeling good behavior is of utmost priority to you as a parent.  To assist you in this worthy calling (the ancient Proverb comes to mind, “Train up a child in the way he/she should go”), there are several profiles available to you:

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Parenting Style (understanding your parenting preference is highly beneficial to understanding your child better).

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Cheers to your success and happiness!

Always in your corner, Kristen

I am made aware lately and not to my liking, that I can no longer read the labels on products in the grocery store without my glasses.  Digging for my glasses from my hand bag while holding a can of soup is becoming rather irritating for me.  I may find myself checking into laser eye surgery in the very near future!

womangrocerystoreI am one who prefers to read labels.  I don’t like not knowing what’s inside.  If companies and governments find it  beneficial to put labels of the contents on the products, then I am certainly taking the time out of my busy schedule to read them.

Labels…..this experience, (of digging for my glasses to read the labels) triggered a dream I had awhile ago.  In the dream, I was covered with a whole bunch of sticky notes,womanstickynotes the kind used in offices everywhere and by the very organized ones in the home.  I had dozens of yellow sticky notes all over my body.  Each note had a word/name on it.  And I realized in my dream, the words were what others had deemed me to be.  Not saying they were all bad, but knowing how I felt in my dream I sensed the labels were not liberating.  In the next part of my dream, a wind began to blow, and all the sticky notes blew away and there I was…..label free!

In regards to purchasing food items, labeling is super beneficial.  Yet, when it comes to people……I believe labeling someone so that another can put them ‘into a box’ is wrong. womaninbox We are all so multi-dimensional it is impossible to figure any one person out completely and why would we even want to, it would ruin the adventure of discovery!  Relationships begin to die when we label and place people in boxes.

At the time of my dream, I was experiencing this very thing, there were some who were trying to figure me out, put a label on me, “You’re this, or you’re that.”  Trust me, it wasn’t to better me….it was so they could create boxes, which limits people’s natural  and supernatural expressions.   Not a liberating experience at all!

A wise king once wrote, “As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” What you believe about yourself can redefine you. Knowing yourself is worth the time, effort, and investment as this leads to taking limits/labels off and anything that constricts, restricts and confines you because you are not placed into a box but rather you are in a wide open spaceous place that allows for creativity, discovery, and exploration! 

Usually fear or ignorance is at the root of people attempting to control others by putting labels on them or putting them into boxes.  Always remember that understanding yourself leads to clarity which is power and you are created to be a powerful person.

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Don’t ever let anyone turn your sky into a ceiling!  Take the limits off….or better yet….take the labels off!

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This Too Shall Pass

Kristen Olynick —  July 17, 2013 — 2 Comments

 boardgame2I’m asked, “What is one thing that people don’t know about you?”  I’m sure you have been as well.  It’s a question asked while playing board games and I love digging deep to try to find something creative that no one around the game table would know about me…….which is tricky when you’ve been married for 27 years and he’s playing too!

Putting lightness aside for a moment and I promise, (myself mostly), it will be for just a moment.  One thing that most people for certain do not know about me is how difficult it is to raise a special needs adoptive daughter, (she came to us when she was 11 years old), and who also struggles with mental health issues.

Today our precious daughter is in her low, or depressed state of what has been diagnosed as bi-polar.  There is usually several days of lowness before the big “dip”  Try as we do to prevent, de-trigger & avoid the “dip,” alas it comes……brutally, painfully…… for her, my husband and me.

It’s true the low stage will pass…..I declare one of my favorite scripture verses of all time often during this stage, “This too shall pass.”   It helps.shot-thru-heart-6312033

Yes, brighter days follow this intense time….yet, the pain involved is fatiguing and leaves an arrow in my heart.

Some of my close friends will ask me, “What does it look like during this time?”  See, like most parents of special needs/mental health children, we tend to cover, to hide behind closed doors, to certainly not expose the ‘ugliness’ of our daughter’s behavior at this time.  We suffer in silence.  When I do open up and share (just a little), I am met with astonished looks as one would never know I was dealing with such trauma in my life…..and on a regular basis.

Everyone is unique and each family that deals with a loved one suffering in this way will have their own story to tell.  I am simply opening up mine.  During this low time we can expect the following:  irrational thinking and behavior, violent outbursts in word and action, destruction of property, barricading herself in her room often going 3 days without showing herself (this has included no food and using a bucket for bathroom purposes).  HandsBehindPrisonBarsVectorMaybe you can see why I don’t share this……until now.

Why now?  There are days I feel trapped, in my own home, in myself.  Not sure where to turn to for freedom from this seeming prison state.  Of course I have measures in place, support systems such as respite, mental health team, psychiatrist, art therapy, etc.  I am my daughter’s greatest advocate.  Still…..it feels hopeless at times.

However, two years ago, I fell trap to keeping silent and found myself stuck, immobile,  isolated, filled with pain and fear of today and the future.  I refuse to get stuck again.  Communicating and facing my pain and fear has permitted me to come out of my own self inflicted prison and I’ll never go back there…..ever again!

This too shall pass.  The brighter days are ahead.  The sun begins to peek through my daughter’s mind and suddenly there is a shift, movement, the change has come.  She will come forth, often with little memory of the intensity of what just took place.

What comes next is best described by my daughter herself, “Mom, I’m in my happy place!” hearthappyface This does bring a big smile to my face and a little one to my heart.

Have you ever gotten stuck?  I have shared how I did and one way I got ‘unstuck’ was I had my brain profile done and used this awareness to bring understanding which brought me clarity which led to me getting my power back……it can happen to you too, I believe!
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He had a burning inside him.  It didn’t make sense to the logical mind.  He had just completed a degree in business and with his upbringing it appeared to redicecreamparlorbe the career direction he would be best suited for. His parents had been business owners all his life; owning ice cream parlors, bowling alley’s during the 50′s and 60′s, booming enterprises for young people and families.

With a wife and two babies to provide for, student loans to pay back as well as parents, his business degree was going to be put to good use and get him started in order to pay back the monies owed and build a future for his young family.  He got a job working for a company.

colorbowlingalleyIt was apparent quite early on….an unsettling feeling….a feeling of disillusionment, sadness……being trapped.  It wasn’t too long before he mentioned to his young wife, “I can’t do this for the rest of my life. I want to go West!  I want to go where there are trees, forests, greenery…..”

carThey packed up and drove and drove and drove.  Three thousand miles in a 1954 Ford station wagon with 2 babies and a heart full of hope!  Applying and being accepted into the University of Oregon’s Forestry Program was a dream come true.  Another 4 years….more student loans….and baby #3!

Having completed his 2nd degree, he was employed…..this time….up North!  Canada!  Packing up his growing family, in the same car, they drove north, not thousands of miles this time, just hundreds.  Passing through the US/Canada border March 22, 1966 with the interior of BC being the final destination.  And baby #4 was added.  He would go on to be employed with the same company for the next 22 years of his life…..as a Forester.mancar

I honor this man for many reasons.  His adventurous spirit, not easy especially in the 60′s (remember there was no internet, long distance phoning was extremely expensive, it was an whole different world back then).  He adjusted course even when it didn’t make sense to others (parents, in-laws, siblings, friends etc).  He had grown up in the business arena, wouldn’t it be ‘natural’ to use the skills and experience acquired?  Instead, he chose to follow his heart……it took time, energy, money, yet he chose to stay true to himself despite the misunderstanding of others and he pursued his passions.

As a Forester, his hobbies and interests could also be lived out more easily;  hunting, fishing, hiking and living in the great outdoors!  Kudos to this man…….this man is indeed…….my dad!

I could have helped dear old dad save literally thousands of dollars on his education costs by simply having his brain profile done.

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It was the summer of…….’83!  Yeah I know, the song refers to the summer of ’69 but I graduated high school in 1983!  I realized the other day that it was 30 years ago this June and just as our theme song said, “Only time will tell”……sandsoftimeFor me the importance is not who did what or who married who……..but rather who stayed true to themselves!  In the brilliant words of Dr. Seuss, ‘‘Today you are YOU that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is youer than YOU.’  ….30 years ago, I reflect and remember this…….Dr__Seuss_Quote_by_pianoxlove112

I was appointed grad President that year and I took on the responsibilities with zeal & great zest!  I wanted it to be the best year, the best memories made, the best experiences possible for all, especially me!  If I had to endure another year of school and living in a small BC town, I was going all in!

It soon became evident that there were certain ‘ways’ that every grad class did things; from the ceremony, dinners, even fund raising was done ‘just so’  Being a strong minded and unconventional sort of person, I immediately set up a meeting with the school Principal.  To make a long story shorter…..my curious mind & longing to understand ‘why’ we had to do things the same way as every other year, was surprisingly met with great receptivity from the Principal, which even to this day I give a lot of credit to.  Instead of deeming me ‘rebellious, difficult, or demanding’, he saw me!  A person with a strong preference for ‘out of the box’ thinking, creativity, lets’ do things….. differently!  I would go on in life not receiving such ‘grace’ and receptivity from a few employers and mostly…….in the church as unfortunately Creativitycrayonmany are threatened when others think differently than they do or question why things are done the same way over and over again (remember the definition of insanity?  To do the same thing over again expecting different results….geesh!)   Back to my story…..

From the location of the ceremony (it had always been held in the school gym), can’t for the life of me understand why!  To fund raising (didn’t do the redhelicopterusual car washes & bake sales :)  To arriving for graduation (some were so creative they actually arrived in helicopters!)  All in all, it was a very creative, one of a kind graduation that was enjoyed by all. Once creativity is encouraged and routine and habit broken, everybody can be creative! 

Knowing myself the way I do (and staying true to being me), as well as being a whole brain practitioner, I desire to assist pechildwonderople, all people, parents, employers, church leaders to name a few, to understand the importance of seeing the world around you, in all its wonder,  in a whole brain way…..this will lead to peace, prosperity of soul, deeper intimacy in relationships and needless to say, a better quality of life.

Don’t wait, don’t hesitate to understand your brain preferences……..only time will tell!
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loveheartI recently had the privilege of sitting down with a dynamic couple!  Dynamic for many reasons really.  First, they have been married for 35 years!  They work together on a day to day basis, have 4 children & 2 grandchildren and have many similar interests and hobbies.  I am not suggesting life has been a bed of roses by any means.  But I did come to realize this one thing about them…..this one crucial key to their success…..creatingyourself

They have done the work!  And still choosing to do more!  They have invested in themselves and in their marriage throughout the years, creating the relationship and life they always dreamed of.  That’s right;  they simply discovered that, ‘Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself.’

Both have used a variety of profiling tools to assist in understanding themselves better.   With being business owners, they knew the way to success in all relationships including business, is to use tools that lead to understanding yourself and others, with the goal being peace & harmony…….and prosperity!

I was certainly excited to share my discoveries on both their brain profiles as I knew they would find value in what I would disclose to them.  It’s a1362979340_breaking-the-chainsmazing what our brain preferences reveal!  For some, it brings great clarity.  For others, shows how powerful they really are which leads to having greater purpose.  And still for others……it means leaving behind ‘voices’ of those who labeled you, boxed you in, misjudged and misunderstood you.  The “ah ha’s,” the light switch turning on, that which is revealed is worth……everything!  “Since doing my profile I feel like someone came and took ‘invisible chains’ off. Things that have been negatives are now positives, and the direction I want to go in is that much clearer.”

My hat goes off to this beautiful couple for staying the course, staying true to themselves, to each other, and for their humility, “If you already know everything, you will never learn anything.”

In all the profiling tools they have used and all the work they have done,  I was still anticipating the wonder they would experience during our consultation!  I knew there was more to be discovered!  The following is a post made by the husband:

“Ha, who knew? Turns out I am more RIGHT-BRAINED than LEFT-BRAINED?!?!?!

Though I have a “high preference” in the left cerebral part, dominated by “the analyst” – it is trumped by a “very very high preference for the right cerebral dominated by “the imagineer”

At the limbic level, again my right-brain “empathizer” is stronger than the left-brained preserver and even “the organizer”

“Seriously – I am surprised.”surprise

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27 Dresses

Kristen Olynick —  April 5, 2013 — 2 Comments

Tribute to my 27th Wedding Anniversary Today!

I wore my first and only wedding dress 27 years ago today!  What a brilliant day that was!  As I walked down the aisle in my 80′s style ‘Princess Diana’ dress including an extra long train, of course, I watched as my husband to be, Brian, was being steadied by the minister……I guess my beauty was a bit overwhelming!  Needless to say, Brian would go on to need several more ‘steadying’ moments being married to a ‘few’ years younger, strong-minded, impatient fun loving bride!

Take my wedding dress for example.  It was the very first one I saw, tried on and that was it, done.  No messing around, hemming/hawing, just make the decision and getter done!

Little did I know at the time, that this trait of mine, making quick decisions which is neither right nor wrong, for me it just is, would become something I would come to not only recognize I had, but I would actually embrace.  At different times over the years, this ability, this skill (trust me, over time I have learned to do my due diligence!), would be a great asset to us.

Backing up the story just a wee bit to the first time I laid eyes on the man who would become my husband.  I was driving with my younger sister in ‘new territory’ when we came to a stop sign.  I looked up and on top of a building was a god!  Seriously, a blond haired, tanned manly man my eyes beheld!

I would not set eyes on my golden boy for another 5 months.  When our paths finally met up, it was love!  Upon our first ‘deep’ conversation, meaning not in the presence of any others, we admitted we were ‘into’ each other.  Five days later, we were engaged with a beautiful ring on my finger, and 4 months to the day I was walking down the aisle!

During that walk…..I realized I barely knew this man that in minutes I was going to say “I Do” to.  Somehow, someway, i just knew I was embarking on a journey of a lifetime, an adventure, a wild water rafting thriller!  We were going all in and we would be lifers!  The good, the bad, the ugly ‘the better or worse’ would be our reality and our vows to each other.Summer-Dresses3

To commemorate each year of my marriage, I would purchase a dress, usually in the spring time or early summer.  They weren’t necessarily white, any color, all colors!  Yet, each year I would find myself as I was 27 years ago…..purchasing the first one that caught my eye, ‘spoke to me’ and with no hesitation, I would buy it!

2stock-photo-several-women-s-multicolored-summer-dresses-5490627 dresses later…….my closet full, my heart even more full.  I am so happy to have married ‘on a whim’ the one who ‘spoke to my heart’.  A guy that is pure gold and worth more than 27 dresses to me!

 

Cheers to marriage.  Cheers to my marriage. Cheers to 27 dresses.  Oh, by the way, I am going shopping tomorrow…..you guessed it!  For my 28th dress!