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In this webinar I am going to show you 5 Essential Steps to a Successful Mid-Life Transition to help you get unstuck, bring clarity and direction towards a successful life transition. I am excited because the strategies I am going to show you today are proven by not only myself but also many of my clients who have found greater fulfillment and harmony with an invigorated passion and energy. So I am so delighted that you are here with me today.
Life transitions can be very complex and can cover a broad scope of circumstances, so my primary focus in this presentation is for women in their late 30’s to mid 50’s…. considered mid-life or the middle years. I work with all age groups and genders, yet my focus is on you today and this important time in your life.
Significant life events have often happened for women in their middle years such as:
- Burnout – from a career or job – stress will takes it’s toll
- Marriage/Relationship Changes – it happens and it’s not about who is right or wrong…it is about you now and finding your happiness and worthiness.
- Empty Nest – Kids who have grown up. Moved on with their own lives whether it be further education, work, or have started their own families….
- Health Issues – having focused on others & not properly caring for yourself
- Or you are simply Ready For A Change – Wanting the next phase of life to be more meaningful
Our crucial ‘middle years’ can be complex and intricate as life has happened. Often, we may struggle with disillusionment as things haven’t taken place as we thought and may require assistance in ‘finding our way’ during this unique phase of life.
I would be thrilled to have you join me today on this webinar as my strategies have helped many women in their middle years as their Life Transition Sherpa.
Merry Christmas and a _______ New Year!
First and foremost I want to take this moment to wish you a Merry Christmas from the bottom of my heart!
I am grateful for the relationship we have whether it be though personal friendship, social media, or any other means.
I imagine you are wondering why I put: “________ New Year!” in the subject line?
The reason is, I would like you to consider giving yourself a unique gift this holiday season.
A gift that requires vulnerability.
What do you really desire your New Year to be like?
Of course there will always be challenges, yet what type of overall theme do you desire for 2017?
What type of words come to mind to describe your year ahead. Prosperity? Healthy? Family? Benevolent? Debt Free? Abundance? Influential? Clarity of Purpose? Author? Etc. I encourage you to be vulnerable and connect with your heart.
Take some time to write these down on a piece of paper or even create a Dream Board. CLICK HERE for ideas about a Dream Board or Google it on your own.
Dream Board Example
Make sure you put your Dream Board somewhere that you can see everyday. Speak the words, touch the dream board, meditate on what is there and take steps everyday to move in the direction of your desires and dreams.
I would also like to challenge you to ask others about their desires and dreams for 2017. Listen to them. They may even ask you about your dreams and desires! If they don’t that is okay too….. People are people and not all have developed a skill of listening. As you listen to others, things in you will percolate further and bring increased clarity.
If you need further assistance or a coach to bring clarity in your life, please connect with me at discoveryourbrilliance.ca I have helped and am assisting many others as a Certified Life Coach and Whole Brain Practitioner.
Once again, I really encourage you to give yourself the gift indicated above this Christmas break and let the overflow of your gift pour into the lives of others!
Blessings and love,
Facing Stage 4 cancer, couple elopes on Aquabus
Often when we open our hearts to new possibilities and get out of our comfort zones, many amazing things can transpire and interesting doors can swing open. This happened to me recently, as I have been serving many couples prepare and officiate their weddings. CTV News in Vancouver, BC did a story on a wedding I officiated last weekend. Here it is:
It’s Fall! Change of season. And yes, one thing that is inevitable for us all…is change. If we aren’t growing, developing, increasing and expanding ourselves….we are actually dying, haha! Not too encouraging but it’s a fact. We have to keep growing ourselves. I was recently asked by a husband (who’s wife is “taking a break” from him), ‘Kristen, how can we recover?’ My answer is this…..grow yourself. Yup, we can’t look at the other person to change, our circumstances to change, the world to change….the one person we are truly responsible for is…..our-self! I know this is too simple, too easy, too whatever for some to accept….but I do keep things simple. Keep growing. Keep learning. Keep on discovering and exploring. Self awareness and understanding does lead to clarity which is power. Be powerful. Be more. Be the change.
I do believe in personal growth and development…big time! And one of the keys to growth is understanding your thinking preferences….which the whole brain profile does this so brilliantly. I want you to know that there are over 20 Add On Profiles to also assist you. Click on the 3 different categories; Personal, Business and Teams, Education and Parenting:
I endeavor to practice what I preach in that I continue to grow myself. This past year I received further training/certification as a Life Coach and the piece added, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) has been phenomenal. I love the quote of Alfred Korzybski who introduced the term NLP, ” God may forgive you for your sins but your nervous system won’t.” In other words, your subconscious mind remembers everything….it does not distinguish between real and imagined! NLP is a brilliant way to reprogram limiting beliefs and thinking that doesn’t line up with truth…that you are brilliant!
I love that the computerized programs are easily accessible and with different platforms available we can do our coaching session in person, over the phone, on Skype etc. No limits!
If you live in the Lower Mainland….I am mobile in that if your preference is a great coffee shop I’ll meet you there! Or you want to check out my Abbotsford office….it’s a bright colored comfy cozy (great sofa!) location too. Otherwise….I’ll see you on Skype!
Cheers to continued growth, discovery and…..all things pumpkin!
Vows fit to their surroundings….
“May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!”
And in true wedding “anything can happen” style….you seize moments that come up….such as when the groom is so bedazzled by his bride’s beauty that he cannot resist the need to reach for his sunglasses….and of course the Best of the Best Men have them ready!
The secret to your wedding day is….be true to yourself. Create the wedding ceremony of your dreams, that truly reflects who you are and when you are true to yourselves….marriage success will follow! #happyweddingofficiant #customweddingceremonies
Today is an anniversary date for me. It is what it is, neither good nor bad….it’s part of my life story. I am a vibrant woman with a heart that is steadfast in looking at the good in my life and celebrating what I have. I have lived with great joys and with great sorrows…it is part of the package we all have and it’s really a beautiful one. Perspective is everything.
This date June 9th has both beauty and sorrow in it. In 1984 it was a day that turned the course of my life and impacted me so severely, yet it also ushered in a whole new path than the one I had been on.
Yes, I was attacked, beaten and raped at knife point. The perpetrator did go to jail as I didn’t have to make any decisions in that area, it was a scenario that was out of my control…police surrounding the area and made public by both newspaper & radio…..
The trauma of this rape did leave scars; Physically, I stopped having periods, was diagnosed barren (I did have one child miraculously:), Emotionally/Mentally suffered PTSD; Relationally I became far more introverted and fearful (an understatement).
I want to speak to those who have suffered rape, trauma, loss of any kind. Knowing what I know today about how amazing we human beings are; that we are 3 parts, body soul & spirit….it takes healing in all 3 areas to really be victorious. To heal, overcome and move forward, past the pain and loss, is not only possible it is yours to have!
By nature I am a philanthropist…..having lived and worked in developing nations, serving and helping those less fortunate. I have given most of my life to assisting others in what I refer to as “Discovering Your Brilliance.” We all have brilliance in us, no matter what happens to us, what decisions we make, or mistakes made at times in life….nothing is too difficult that with assistance (divine & human:) we cannot overcome. There is always hope; the confident optimistic expectation that good is coming!
Pursuing my brilliance included training and licensing as a Whole Brain Practitioner; where understanding and awareness of how you think brings clarity to almost every area of life; relationships, business, parenting, decision making etc); As a Certified Life Coach I also understood from my life experiences that so much of our beliefs, thinking, perspectives are in our subconscious mind and to really access this mind we need the skills and tools necessary along with the willingness “to go there.” Neurolinguistics Programming helps to re-frame thinking patterns and unlocks negative emotions, (memory is stored at a cellular level), releasing them to bring more freedom!
I meet clients (people!) everywhere…coffee shops, houses,
Skype, indoors, outdoors, just about anywhere to help bring understanding and clarity which leads to being powerful. Recently, I have a bright and colorful office space at the core of my city….. I am so looking forward to meeting you and I’m confident that we will together discover your brilliance!
Have a better than great day! June 9th is so beautiful!
With love & laughter,
Certified International Whole Brain Practitioner
CCF – Certified Coaches Federation
NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming
Licensed Marriage Coach
Licensed Wedding Officiant
2015 is nearing its end and what a year of beautiful weddings it’s been. From barn venues, to ocean side, lakes & rivers, forests, historic halls & churches to mom & dad’s back yard….and a few Legalizations down at my favorite Starbucks! It’s been a most amazing time meeting couples who are excited to take the step of marriage adventure!
Life really is a daring adventure…or it’s nothing at all Adventure in love is the best and love is so in. Being invited to come alongside each couple to assist & facilitate what is in their hearts in creating the wedding day of their dreams is something I not only love to do but am sincerely honored to do. I love what I do! Below are a few photos captured along the 2015 wedding season adventure.
I might add a little tip for couples planning a 2016 and beyond wedding…..the fall months are a gorgeous time to be married, especially in the Interior of BC. You avoid those sweaty hot summer days and usually Vendors aren’t as swamped.
But indoors or outdoors, formal or elopement….love is always in the air! Thank you to all the precious couples I had the immense joy of marrying and to all upcoming weddings….I’m so excited for you and with you!
I’m here to ensure your wedding day is one to remember with great joy. Remember….a wedding is for a day….marriage is for life. Pre-marriage and Enrich marriage coaching is available for you. Prepare/Enrich assessment tool is the relationship tool of choice for over 3 decades and with over 2.5 million couples. To grow and solidify your relationship and gain the skill sets needed for better communication, to identify and manage major stressors, to resolve conflicts, to understand personality differences and more, is achieved with this resource tool. CLICK HERE
With love & laughter,
I believe wholeheartedly in discovering what it is that makes you come alive, inside….and it manifests on the outside….like a huge smile on your face, a lightness in your step, less wrinkles on your brow
Sometimes the “finding” of what you like to do is not really a mystery. If you pay close attention to what happens naturally, what comes your way seemingly without effort, or what you find yourself gravitating to. For me, I always was interested in what made people come alive I’d be asked to meet someone for coffee and listen to them talk about their options for jobs or schooling or what they wanted to do with their talents……it just seemed to be what I did….naturally.
Becoming a Certified Life/Career Coach was a great fit for my thinking preferences. Discovering what you want to do or what field of study to pursue becomes a whole lot easier when you use a profiling tool. I’ve used several different ones over the past two decades. My personal preference is the NBI Whole Brain Profiling tool as it yields greater results and is scientifically based.
To learn more about this tool and packages CLICK HERE
I am also passionate about healthy growing relationships. I’ve been married for over 28 years to my first husband:) I am a Certified Relationship/Marriage Coach and my preference for profiling tools is Prepare/Enrich which has been used for over 3 decades with over 2.5 million couples using it.
To learn more about this tool and packages CLICK HERE
Did I say I love marriage?!! Yes and I love performing weddings! I am also a Licensed Wedding Officiant and have different packages for you to view by CLICKING HERE
This is a lil of what I do:) Discovering your brilliance is my joy!
The past few years have not been the easiest, healthiest, happiest…years of my life. Although, I am one who chooses to look on the bright side of life, the reality is I have experienced physical, mental and emotional pain that at times I thought were going “to take me out.” Sandi Krakowski came into my life the spring of 2013 and became a source of light and hope….people come into our lives at the perfect time it seems.
Battling filariasis, a tropical disease from a mosquito that deposited worms in my lymphatic system while living and working in Central America, along with increasing stress in my work life….I reached a place that I needed to take some “time out,” put the oxygen mask on myself before running around taking care of everyone else. My health had deteriorated to a point where I was literally losing my mind! Little did I know that this decision, for me a life and death decision really, would have a ripple effect that I did not foresee. Some people didn’t know how to interact with me as I was no longer able to “perform” in my usual ways, both in my personal and work life. It seemed so strange…..that a need….a basic need for survival would be met with……silence from many that I had “done life with.” In my community I would be met with stares…..no inquiries, no approaches…..just stares from those who had “heard something”…..not sure what…..but something.
Meeting Sandi Krakowski was like a light went on in my my brain! Hope filled my senses…..her life story caused me to say, “If she can overcome, so can I” I took several of her courses and fed myself on her messages of good, of hope and of overcoming and on being true to yourself, forgiving others and yourself, wiping it off, don’t take it personally and keep moving forward. I’m a true believer that movement is life….do whatever it takes to keep moving.
Like Sandi describes below….we all will face a time of darkness…..having true friends to walk beside you is…..a gift from God Himself. Enjoy Sandi’s article today and may she bring a smile to your face as she has mine. And for those we came into my time of darkness…..THANK YOU for turning on the light for me.
We all have dark seasons in our life. Times when we can’t seem to find the light switch to get out and we begin to coast from one day to the next. During these times it’s really important to know who your friends are. In a recent private mastermind I was teaching some of my clients the difference between valid criticism someone might bring and hurtful, irresponsible opinions other people can bring. The more successful you become in business, the more opinions you will attract.
Ironically, some of the darkest comments people bring will not come from those who are close to you. Sure, our loved ones, spouses and family can say hurtful things at times. Sometimes they’re threatened, other times they’re afraid they are going to lose us if we’re successful and there are even times when they are just plain jealous. But overall, the majority of really dark targeted hateful comments will come from people who don’t know you, haven’t a clue what your heart is about and they simply have such disrespect for themselves that they have to take it out on someone else. Forgiveness is your super power. Forgive. Don’t take it personal. Wipe it off. Move on.
What I want to talk about today is friends. True friends. The people who when life gets really bad, they come over, pour coffee, jump on a plane even and they’re not leaving, no matter what. They could care less what trouble you’re in, what you’ve done, where you’re going or even if you’re acting like a completely moron momentarily. They are with you. It is these people that come in, find the light switch, and bring light into our lives.
Here’s the truth- you won’t have a lot of these people in your life. You’ll have a lot of nice people, who care and do love you but they wouldn’t pick up the phone to talk to you if life is hard on their end let alone jump on a plane to be with you. Doesn’t mean they don’t care, it’s just that they aren’t your close inner circle.
Get an inner circle of friends you can depend on.
It doesn’t have to be more than 2-3 people. One of the most critical things that has happened in my life in the last year is the shift of my inner circle. No longer is everyone who is close to me needing me to lead, direct them and be the light bearer for them. No, now I have 4-5 people who I can hang my life on. They’ll tell me the truth. When I am a moron, they’ll tell me. When I’m being hard on myself, they’ll tell me. They’ll text me at any time of the day, no matter where they are at, and they have my back. Here’s the big part, I also have chosen to have theirs. It’s not a one way street.
Like I said, there’s not a lot of people who will fit this role. It doesn’t mean that everyone else can’t pray for you, support you, send kind words and cards and be a great benefit to your life. It just means that you’ve now grown to the level of needing a close tight inner circle.
Who will be in that place in your life?
How did I find these people? I prayed. I asked God to bring them. I poured my heart out to God and He answered my cry. When life is at its darkest, your real friends will come and turn the lights on.
Being one to celebrate diversity…..I enjoy many different flavors of ice cream, wouldn’t it be dreadful to only eat vanilla your entire life?! The squeals of joy that come forth from my two grand kids as I ask, “Who wants ice cream?” And we say together, “I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream!” This mantra came from my dad who grew up working in his parents ice cream parlor business…..not a bad place to work! When we think of ice cream, I don’t think I know of anyone who chooses the same flavor every time….the different flavors is what makes eating ice cream so pleasurable.
This thought leads me to think about relationships, both personal and in the business arena. Relationships are fragile at best….and I am not an expert in theory nor in practice let me make that clear from the start. I really am an observer of human behavior as I enjoy it very much as well I am a participator of course.
Let’s stay with the word diversity….dictionary.com defines it as: the state of being diverse; difference; unlikeness; variety; multiformity. The opposite of diversity would then simply be sameness or similarity. One thing I enjoy about people and relationships is no one person is the same….as me….or anyone else on the planet! Each person has a unique design, DNA, like a snowflake, no one person is the same as another and this in itself is to be celebrated!
Relationships are fragile…..would it be safe to say that if we understood how unique we are and the same is true of another….that would be a good place to begin accepting each other and again, celebrating the diversity in the relationship.
From my life experience I have seen a few interesting things with regards to relationships with the almost 5 decades I’ve lived on this big beautiful planet. Sadly, I have experienced and witnessed where people’s diversity caused hurt, pain, separation, disassociation, judgment etc.
When someone chooses a new flavor of ice cream….say a new church, a new business, a new product, a new career, a new car, a new hairstyle….whatever it may be….this is something we should all be celebrating! For example, I grew up attending church every Sunday morning. We started at a United Church, moved to a Free Methodist, then to a Free Evangelical, Pentecostal, Charismatic etc. I think there may have been a Baptist in there as well. Back in that time…it was almost viewed a “sin” to change one’s church preferences; the Baptists didn’t associate with the Pentecostals and vice versa.
Moving ahead to our present time…..I ask myself has much changed? I can honestly say with joy, yes! Yet, there is still a ways to go
I still see where people disassociate with someone they were in relationship with simply due to a preference for things like: a new business, a new product, a new house, bank, church, school…..you get the picture. You will even find people “de-friending” people on face book for not being in the same business any longer or promoting what they believe is the “right” thing. My honest thoughts on this is summed up in 3 simple words “Get over yourself!” Seriously, the world is a big beautiful place for you and your flavor of ice cream that you enjoy and for others who may enjoy another flavor.
One of my favorite expressions is this: Unity in diversity is power! Isn’t that great! When we can not only accept that people are different from us, they may think different, go to a church that is different than ours or use a product different than the one we use…..but we can move forward to not only acceptance but celebration! One size truly does not fit all in this context.
Hey, I’m heading out for an ice cream cone….3 scoops…cause I think I want to taste 3 different flavors today
Enjoy this beautiful day and choose to celebrate the beauty in simplicity and in diversity….I know I am!
With great joy, Kristen